In need of some <3 Advice...

[katia]

So the whole business with commuting would be absolutely fine if I was capable of doing any work at home, unfortunately that is not the case.  I am not even sure why I am updating, I think I ran out of all other available means of procrastination and can't bring myself to go back to reading 'A Social Theory of International Relations', for the incomprehensibility of which my lecturer actually apologised today.

I guess the real reason is that I need advice. It has been ages since I have really liked someone and even longer since I've pursued anyone, so I don't know what to do! The person that I like is someone I have become friends with over the last couple of weeks, so normal ways of asking someone out are not clear enough, like we have had coffee, lunch and drinks on numerous occasions (coffee and lunch just the two of us, he paid for coffee 1, I paid for coffee 2,) I don't know if he likes me like that, and I am pretty sure he has no idea how I feel, because my extreme fear of rejection means that I act in a completely nonchalant way, but he definitely likes me enough to spend many hours talking to me and leaving his house to have lunch with me. He also dresses like Ryan Atwood: grey hoodie and a leather jacket. (Sorry, if you don't watch the OC!) Yeah that's not relevant, but it is sort of awesome.

So I need to do something fairly soon, because it led me to spend about half an hour in the library today staring into space, and it will be harder once we become too good friends, you know? The question is what do I do? Someone on my course is having a party on Saturday and I am thinking the solution maybe to get drunk and try to kiss him, but I do see many a problems with this plan.

Help?

Comments

[davosaurus.livejournal.com]

Is he the sort of guy who is gonna be okay with things if you ask him out and he doesn't like you 'that' way?

[kuteki.livejournal.com]

He will probably be fine, me on the other hand will probably not be fine. Though, it will probably be better off either way, but I would so chicken out of doing anything unless I had more guarantee that there would be no rejection.

[lauds.livejournal.com]

Sadly, I am useless but wanted to say his dressing like Ryan is definitely relevant. *nods*

[kuteki.livejournal.com]

I am also useless :( And another possibly not relevant fact: last night this other guy on my course told him that he looks like the French thief in Ocean's 12.

[jacinthsong.livejournal.com]

I say do something asap. If you wait til after the party someone else may snatch him, and if you try and kiss him just before the party and it goes wrong the awkwardness will still be fresh. Ask him over for dinner at yours? At best there will be an evening to yourselves and possibly wine and music, and at worst you will have more time to step up flirting and gauge his reactions.

And you are awesome and really really gorgeous. He would be nuts to ignore you.

xxx

[kuteki.livejournal.com]

That is good advice, if I don't do something soon I will go mad, and dinner would be perfect, sadly living in Milton Keynes makes it impossible :( and I feel like it just isn't going to happen, and he isn't even sure of he's going to the party! This is really making me miserable, and then I get angry at myself for being pathetic. Oh dear.

[lauds.livejournal.com]

Ooh, this is a good idea! Ask him to dinner at a restaurant! (I recommend a walk along the South Bank afterwards, v.romantic.) At least if you act on it, you'll know either way and won't feel so powerless?

I looked up Ocean's 12 on youtube out of curiousity, hehe.

(And don't know if you realise this is public? Just in case you're as paranoid as I am.)

[(Anonymous)]

i second southbank, however general advice would be alcohol and talking, last two boys who asked me out both mummbled something about dutch courage as they attempted to formulate sentences while i watched in a sort of amused and detached way, not for the lack of interest on my part or anything, i just find these types of conversations quite awful really, and to be put off at all costs! both were relatively successful in their quests however, so perhaps talking is a good way to start.
fingers crossed!

ani